There are two reasons to gain influence with someone’s circle of friends. You may want to do so to get closer to that person, or you may want to do so to pull off a prank or revenge on that person. Whatever the reason, it isn’t a hard thing to do.
The first step is finding out who these people are. If you are on Myspace or Facebook, their friends are listed right there. Start your friendship campaign there by befriending them online. Ask them to be your “friend” or “favorite” on your Myspace or Facebook page. Then start talking. Leave them messages, ask them questions, develop an online relationship.
If you know the person from work or school, getting to know their friends is easy, too. Just watch who they hang out with. Then, find things in common with their friends and play up that angle of a friendship. If you play basketball and one of their friends plays basketball, then that is the one to start working on.
If you can identify which of their friends has the weakest or most needy personality, that is also a good target. Someone with little self-esteem will accept your friendship almost without question. This sounds bad, but it may be the fattest one, the shortest one, or the ugliest one. It may be the friend without a job, or the “loser” of the crowd. Whichever it is, that is the one to befriend first. They will accept you immediately and you will be “in” with the rest of the crowd.
If you are a party-giver, have a party and invite several of the person’s friends to the party. One of them may bring your target, or at the very least they may go back and tell that person all about you and the party they missed. Creating a little jealousy along the way can get you into the crowd even quicker.
Walter Winchell once said, “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” By becoming friends in that social circle when times are tough – or by helping one or more of them out with something – you will become a friend of the entire circle almost immediately.
It isn’t hard to make friends – even if it is for distasteful purposes – just be yourself, serve a purpose, and give more than you get!
Oscar Wilde once said, “Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.” How true is that? It isn’t really forgiving and forgetting in the true religious meaning of the words, but it is still effective.
People can live their entire lives with a chip on their shoulder. People can also go for years waiting for an opportunity to exact revenge. People can plan and plot and wait for their enemy to turn their back so they can attack. All the while, they are wasting their time on someone who probably doesn’t even recognize their anger.
Life really is too short to carry on the burden of someone else’s problem. By forgiving, you are acknowledging that the other person has made a mistake and it is over. Maybe it was intentional, or maybe it wasn’t, but they are human just like us. And guess what? We all make mistakes.
By forgetting – usually the hardest part – we allow ourselves to move on. Of course we never really do forget, we just move the memory of the pain we endured to a more distant part of our mind. We might bring it up from time to time, but we choose not to live with it on an everyday basis.
If you are a religious person, no doubt your religion asks you to forgive others, just as we ask forgiveness from our God. By carrying around vengeful feelings, and not forgiving and forgetting, you are asking God to do something for you that you are unable to do for another human being.
As Isabelle Holland said, “As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your mind.” By forgiving someone and moving on, you can free up that space for more productive, positive thinking.
Most people have waged vengeful campaigns on others during their lives, and you have to expect that what goes around comes around. Eventually, someone will be after you. There are several ways that you can protect yourself from revenge attacks.
1 – Keep your phone number unlisted. By doing this, people are less apt to harass you over the phone.
2 – Be able to switch your email address at the drop of a hat. Many people who are tied into email addresses at a particular provider (Qwest, Comcast, etc.) are reluctant to ever change their email. Be ready with a backup email address in case someone seeks revenge on you by waging a spam campaign.
3 – Always keep your computer backed up. One of the most popular means of revenge these days is a virus, spamware, or adware attack via seemingly innocuous email. Do not open attachments – even from people you know – unless you have run it through an anti-virus program. Keep your computer’s virus protection up-to-date and your computer backed up at all times in case the worst happens.
4 – It is not a bad idea to install spy cameras in your home. If someone is really intent on getting you, visual evidence is a good thing to have.
5 – Never give your credit card, driver’s license, or social security number out to ANYONE over the phone. Even if they are offering you the best deal ever, don’t do it. It is almost always a scam, and may be perpetuated by someone you know.
6 – If it seems to good to be true, it probably is. If you are offered something for free for no reason, watch out. If an unusually cute guy or gal asks you out, watch your back – it could be a set-up.
7 – Watch your back on Facebook and Myspace. If you don’t know someone, never accept them as your friend.
By following these and other precautions, you will be less likely to be caught in a revenge attack. Just watch your back!
Many an author has written and many a public speaker has said that the best revenge is to live well. But often living revenge is simply not enough for the person who has been scorned. Sometimes revenge is absolutely necessary.
Who among us hasn’t been annoyed by telemarketers? Even with the advent of this country’s “Do Not Call” list, unwelcome calls arrive all the time. There are several ways to get back at them for disturbing your peace. Of course you could just ignore their calls or put your phone on mute, but where is the fun in that? You could hang up on them immediately, swear at them, or listen to their entire spiel, give them the impression that you are buying and then “disconnect” the line, or better yet, you can blow the loudest, shrillest whistle you can find in their ear.
Companies you do business with are even more fun to toy with. In the old days, a simple letter writing campaign to get an employee fired, or someone in trouble would do it. Today, you can take your anger onto the web. For instance, there are more than a dozen anti-Starbucks websites on the web, built by ex-employees, disgruntled consumers, and angry vendors. People who are seeking revenge on Starbucks as a whole (or individual stores) use the web to steer people away from their businesses.
Another way of using the web to get back at companies is to create bogus coupons and circulate them through coupon sites. Within weeks, the companies will be inundanted by invalid coupons, causing their employees and accounting departments untold problems.
Restaurants are easy to get revenge on. If you have an unpleasant, unhealthy, or even dangerous meal at a restaurant of course you can use word-of-mouth, which is the best revenge. But, if you want more, contact the board of health and complain, write the newspapers, and start harassing the restaurant itself (or its parent company if it is a chain). People have even picketed outside restaurants after finding bugs in their food.
Never let a company get the better of you. There are plenty of ways to get your revenge! Be imaginative!
You gotta love the internet! Not only can you find hundreds of ideas for revenge online, but there are also companies who specialize in doling out the revenge. By paying just a few bucks (or in some cases, nothing at all), there are websites who will help you deliver your message to your victim.
Postal Secrets (www.postalsecrets.com) will forward truly anonymous letters, postmarked from random zip codes to anyone in the United States. You can pretend to be anyone and send whatever message you want to your victim.
The Anonymous Email (www.theanonymousemail.com) will forward anonymous email to anyone without a chance of it being traced back to you. Pretend to be a friend and tell your victim something that will hurt them deeply.
Revenge Guy (www.revengeguy.com) is a great place to start to find out more information about what is appropriate (and legal) revenge, and what is not. It also guides you in ways to retaliate against certain wrongs. For instance, cheating wives, bad bosses, nasty stepchildren – there are certain ways to get all of them back!
Background checks are often the first step in exacting revenge. One of the cheapest sites for background checks is Detective Sherlock (www.detective-sherlock.com). For just $5.95, you can get a little information on your victim, and spread the word about who they really are!
The best revenge is generally delivered by the use of information. Everyone has skeletons in their closets, and you can find them! Start with search engines such as Yahoo or Google. Go to Yahoogroups and search for their email address and see if they are parts of any unsavory email groups. If they aren’t, then go ahead and subscribe them yourself! Go to Facebook or Myspace and infiltrate their profile with lies, accusations, or a simple, “Hey, I had a lot of fun going out with you last night!” Getting someone in trouble with their significant other is always fun!
Robert F. Kennedy once said, “Don’t get mad, get even.” And that is the point of revenge. Revenge serves two purposes – pay someone back for something they did, and make you feel better. The more complete the revenge, the more they will hurt and the more you will gloat.
The Talmud states, “Live well. It is the greatest revenge.” Well, few people ever get to that point and unless the person you hate knows about it, living well doesn’t do much to make you feel better.
So, how do you get revenge on someone? Here are five great ways to start:
1 – You need to find out what is the most important thing in their life and that is the thing you want to damage. And by “thing”, I don’t mean a possession. I mean a relationship or career or love interest. You don’t want to do physical harm, just emotional harm.
2 – Humiliation is a great way to get revenge. Make the person look bad in front of others, and if you can do it so that you are not involved, even the better.
3 – Background checks are a great way to find out information about someone, and oftentimes information they want kept secret. It is your job to ensure that the information is not kept secret!
4 – Document and advertise the harm that this person has done to you, then extensively advertise it on the web, at their work, or send copies of the document to their loved ones. The more public you can do this, the greater the reward.
5 – Spread rumors. People love to gossip and the more unsavory rumors you can spread, the better. People love rumors about men with small genitals, women who are unfaithful or have had abortions, and who doesn’t love a good homosexual rumor?
Remember, the best revenge is not living well – it is seeing the person you hate pay the price for what they did to you. Search online and you will find a multitude of ways to make them suffer!
The internet is a fabulous invention! Years ago, you would have to go to the largest public library you could find to find the name and address of someone. Of course, many times they were unlisted, so you were out of luck.
Today, there are a number of ways to find out the name and address of people without spending the day at the library. And, this is where the internet comes into it.
The first and easiest way to find someone is to go to Google or Yahoo and type in their name and city. If the person you are looking for has a common name, you might need to narrow the search down a little by adding some more information about them. The more you can narrow it down, the more accurate your search will be.
The most complete online phone book is probably Switchboard.com. You can search by name and address, or you can do a reverse phone search. For example, if you know the phone number of the person calling you, you can type in the number and the name of the person will come up.
Be sure to search Facebook and Myspace. Often, though, you will find the person you are looking for online, but not be able to see their information because they will have to approve you as a “friend”. This is where it pays to be sneaky. Create a fake Myspace or Facebook account and then try and add them. If the person you are trying to find out about is a man, make your Myspace or Facebook profile that of a very, young, attractive woman who either went to their school or lives in their town. It is rare that they will ever turn down a friend request like that!
Do not underestimate the power of a fake email address! By creating several different profiles, you can infiltrate this person’s circle of friends and find out information about them that way. Keep your email profiles straight though, for you don’t want to give away your real information to someone.
These are just a few of the many ways you can find out about a person online. There are many others! Do a good search and use your crafty imagination!
You will hear a variety of arguments on what you should do to get
revenge on an ex-lover. Most of these cases involve a cheating
lover who has committed the ultimate sin—daring to desire someone
else over you. Most are in agreement though, that at least to
some extent, you have to live happily ever after. One of the
biggest mistakes jilter lovers make is in obsessing over their
former lover to the point of pain, depression or even psychosis.
Once you go past that point, it’s hard to come back down to
reality. You’re not Alanis Morissette and what you’re doing is
not “art”, nor “therapy.” It is self-destructive, self-gouging
and you must desist in it if you are to retain your own sanity.
It is important that you confront the ex-lover and purge all of
your angry feelings. It’s possible that he or she will laugh at
your statement, but that doesn’t change the fact that you are
doing your part to move on. Of course, this reasoning can also be
manipulated into a much crueler idea: you can guilt your ex-lover
and prey upon their known weaknesses. For instance, if you know
that your lover is sensitive or suffers from guilt, you can play
up how much you’ve been hurt and what he or she “has done” to you.
Truth be told? Yes, it is immediately satisfying, but in the
long run it is absolutely pointless.
Ask yourself why you have the desire to terrorize your ex-lover
either through emotional manipulation or even scary in-person
pranks. (i.e. leaving dead animals on their porch) What good is
it accomplishing? Are you really bringing happiness to yourself
through this acting out? Or are you trying to fill a never-ending
void of regret? Perhaps you’re trying to “save” the relationship
by manipulating your lover to feel something again—feel anything
for you, so that they will see the error of their ways. Not a
good idea. You are surrendering too much power to them and not
having enough confidence or enough love in your own identity.
One of the most often-heard tidbits of advice can be beneficial to
some people, and that is to start dating again. Do not do this
unless you know you are capable of handling the emotions that come
with dating. Basically, this means that you should be capable of
having a one-night stand without major drama, or that you are
capable of dating someone special and do not intend on dragging
your old relationship into the new one. Yes, it’s true. If your
ex-lover really had feelings for you he or she will be bothered by
news that you met someone else. It is a form of revenge—but even
better, it helps to massage and heal your own bruised ego.
There are plenty of other people out there who are worth your love
and affection. Next time you won’t make the same mistakes. Next
time, you intend to live happily ever after. Soon enough, you
will only remember your ex as one of the many that stumbled into
your life but left quickly; he (or she) would be eclipsed by your
true love, the one that really loved you. Meanwhile, if your ex
was really that much of a jerk or witch, then you can be happy
knowing that their selfish attitude towards life will ultimately
hurt them more than you ever could. The simple answer is that the
best revenge is to live happy and to move on with your life.
Achieve that and there will be nothing your ex can do about it.
Snap!