How To Gain Influence In Someone’s Circle Of Close Friends

There are two reasons to gain influence with someone’s circle of friends. You may want to do so to get closer to that person, or you may want to do so to pull off a prank or revenge on that person. Whatever the reason, it isn’t a hard thing to do.

The first step is finding out who these people are. If you are on Myspace or Facebook, their friends are listed right there. Start your friendship campaign there by befriending them online. Ask them to be your “friend” or “favorite” on your Myspace or Facebook page. Then start talking. Leave them messages, ask them questions, develop an online relationship.

If you know the person from work or school, getting to know their friends is easy, too. Just watch who they hang out with. Then, find things in common with their friends and play up that angle of a friendship. If you play basketball and one of their friends plays basketball, then that is the one to start working on.

If you can identify which of their friends has the weakest or most needy personality, that is also a good target. Someone with little self-esteem will accept your friendship almost without question. This sounds bad, but it may be the fattest one, the shortest one, or the ugliest one. It may be the friend without a job, or the “loser” of the crowd. Whichever it is, that is the one to befriend first. They will accept you immediately and you will be “in” with the rest of the crowd.

If you are a party-giver, have a party and invite several of the person’s friends to the party. One of them may bring your target, or at the very least they may go back and tell that person all about you and the party they missed. Creating a little jealousy along the way can get you into the crowd even quicker.

Walter Winchell once said, “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” By becoming friends in that social circle when times are tough – or by helping one or more of them out with something – you will become a friend of the entire circle almost immediately.

It isn’t hard to make friends – even if it is for distasteful purposes – just be yourself, serve a purpose, and give more than you get!