The Best Ways To Get Revenge On A Cheating Ex

You will hear a variety of arguments on what you should do to get
revenge on an ex-lover.  Most of these cases involve a cheating
lover who has committed the ultimate sin—daring to desire someone
else over you.  Most are in agreement though, that at least to
some extent, you have to live happily ever after.  One of the
biggest mistakes jilter lovers make is in obsessing over their
former lover to the point of pain, depression or even psychosis.  
Once you go past that point, it’s hard to come back down to
reality.  You’re not Alanis Morissette and what you’re doing is
not “art”, nor “therapy.”  It is self-destructive, self-gouging
and you must desist in it if you are to retain your own sanity.

It is important that you confront the ex-lover and purge all of
your angry feelings.  It’s possible that he or she will laugh at
your statement, but that doesn’t change the fact that you are
doing your part to move on.  Of course, this reasoning can also be
manipulated into a much crueler idea: you can guilt your ex-lover
and prey upon their known weaknesses.  For instance, if you know
that your lover is sensitive or suffers from guilt, you can play
up how much you’ve been hurt and what he or she “has done” to you.
Truth be told?  Yes, it is immediately satisfying, but in the
long run it is absolutely pointless.

Ask yourself why you have the desire to terrorize your ex-lover
either through emotional manipulation or even scary in-person
pranks.  (i.e. leaving dead animals on their porch)  What good is
it accomplishing?  Are you really bringing happiness to yourself
through this acting out?  Or are you trying to fill a never-ending
void of regret?  Perhaps you’re trying to “save” the relationship
by manipulating your lover to feel something again—feel anything
for you, so that they will see the error of their ways.  Not a
good idea.  You are surrendering too much power to them and not
having enough confidence or enough love in your own identity.

One of the most often-heard tidbits of advice can be beneficial to
some people, and that is to start dating again.  Do not do this
unless you know you are capable of handling the emotions that come
with dating.  Basically, this means that you should be capable of
having a one-night stand without major drama, or that you are
capable of dating someone special and do not intend on dragging
your old relationship into the new one.  Yes, it’s true.  If your
ex-lover really had feelings for you he or she will be bothered by
news that you met someone else.  It is a form of revenge—but even
better, it helps to massage and heal your own bruised ego.

There are plenty of other people out there who are worth your love
and affection.  Next time you won’t make the same mistakes.  Next
time, you intend to live happily ever after.  Soon enough, you
will only remember your ex as one of the many that stumbled into
your life but left quickly; he (or she) would be eclipsed by your
true love, the one that really loved you.  Meanwhile, if your ex
was really that much of a jerk or witch, then you can be happy
knowing that their selfish attitude towards life will ultimately
hurt them more than you ever could.  The simple answer is that the
best revenge is to live happy and to move on with your life.  
Achieve that and there will be nothing your ex can do about it.  
Snap!